A Nation of Ideas (Or Oops, my patriotism is showing)

                When a nation such as ours is faced with the corrupting influence of stupidity it’s hard to keep quiet.  I try my best to put a good spin on the daily developments but it’s getting to the point where all the spinning is just making everyone dizzy.  I’m not sure anyone knows where up or down is anymore. I don’t like to get into one-sided political discussions. I think every American in the United States has the right to freely express their ideas and I can certainly afford them the general courtesy of hearing them out; even if their opinion comes from a place of incorrect information, fear, loathing, spite or ignorance. I can listen even if I disagree. In fact, I want them to persuade me to change my mind. I want to hear their words and believe they are indeed well thought out and coherent and built on tried and tested methods of logical thought. I’m not hearing a lot of that though; not at all.

                What I hear is lot of people that are simply afraid and unwilling to reach back into their shared history for examples, information and precedence. I hear reactionary rhetoric from both sides of the political landscape resulting in landslides of mis, dis, and non-information. I don’t hear anything of substance clearly presented or fully vetted by experienced peers. I just hear a lot of heads, on TV, talking and talking about one issue over and over again on hourly loops which never seem to go anywhere and then abandoned the second a new issue hits the presses. There is nothing resolved, solved, explained or even appropriately handled.

                It amazes me that a country built on the foundations of political discourse can be so easily led down the primrose path of simply failing to ask, “Why?” It is our duty to ask why. It is our mission as citizens to ask why and the duty of our elected representatives to provide the answers to those questions. We want to talk about it. We want to know why. They work for us. They should be able to provide us detailed answers.

Why as a citizen do you feel under represented? Why do you feel unsafe? What are you doing in your own community to help alleviate those feelings? Is what you’re doing negatively impacting those around you or are you doing something to help others? We’re a nation of communities, of close knit neighborhoods, and a generalized expectation of the goodness in our fellow citizens. Why are we so terrified all the time?

                I feel at times we’re like children, afraid of the dark and no one seems to be brave enough to get up and stumble through the darkness for a light. They’d rather sit in the dark, pissing themselves in terror than find a way to stop being afraid. The only thing they are afraid of is the unknown, “Fear itself”, as it were.  We don’t have to be afraid of knowledge. We don’t have to be afraid of intelligence. We don’t have to be afraid of emotional intelligence. We don’t have to be scared of empathy, of sympathy, or that people are, “out to get us”.

                We might be a little punch-drunk in all reality. We were effectively the Global Champions, a nation of immigrants and migrants that successfully built a country from disparate points of view, to stacking up political and military victories like some sort of Rocky Balboa. We took a lot of hits during that time though. We were unsuccessful on a few military fronts, we were held back by puritanical/segregated/populist beliefs at home, social and economic down swings and failed domestic policies. We’re still the best contender but we’re a little jangly in our form. We know what we want to say but we have a hard time articulating now, since we’ve taken so many blows to the head.  We’re a little more reactionary and put our foot in our mouths more often than we used to. Our intentions are good but our execution is somehow muddled due to the number or rounds we’ve been in.

                We’re a nation of amazing contradictions, double-standards, stupidity and sometimes insane points of view yet we persist in spite of ourselves. It has always been that way and it always takes an incredible effort of the people to change anything. This is a country of viewpoints, perspectives and ideals and is far greater than something drawn on a map. We have to remember that the United States of America isn’t a place really, but an idea.

                It is our duty to reinvigorate that idea though diligent exploration of ourselves, our collective desires as a nation and as a people.  We must not be led astray by populist zealots, by fear mongers, by war hawks, racial separatists, or those that seek personal power over the good of the people. We must not be suckered by those that wish to dilute the purpose of the United States of America by keeping us stupid or in the dark. We have to stay alert, sharp, and focused on the things that have made this experimental nation a success and avoid the policies of ignorance that have held us back.

    

We’re a nation of fighters, idealists, thinkers and innovators from all over the world, believing together in something unprecedented in human history; that a nation of ideas can be stronger than any nation of barriers. We will not let the corruption of stupidity take hold. 

The Story

I love the confidence in a good story.

There’s something so satisfying

watching, listening, to someone

tell a story about a memory or

their life; they’ve told it

a hundred times but have a

sure knowledge that the story

will kill every time they tell it.

It’s amazing to see their eyes

dance with such surety. The

disco-ball of confidence, twirling

in their iris as they get to the part that

always gets the laugh yet only begs

for more details. The part that leaves

the listener wanting more. That one,

awesome part that baits everyone’s attention.

It’s marvelous to watch.

Even better to be a part of it,

and even more wonderful to be

the one telling the story to that

small sea of faces, eagerly

anticipating each word, motion,

and epic sentence.  To see the

light, reflected, in their eyes.

A story told well has a million

lives. It’s re-told, embellished,

re-crafted, and embarks on new

journeys to new ears and eyes.

It’s no wonder we, as a species,

are so fascinated by a well told

story, tale, anecdote.  We love

them, we love the tellers.

Let me tell you about the time I…

A Cheer Up

                “Cheer up,” said the mouse.

                “No. I don’t want to,” said the man.

                “Aw, come on man. I’ll bring you some cheese if I can get a smile out of you,” said the mouse.

                “No. I don’t like cheese. I’m lactose intolerant,” said the man.

                “I don’t know what lactose intolerance is, but I’m pretty sure intolerance is bad,” said the mouse.

                The man sat against the wall. He rested his head on his arms folded over his knees. He felt his eyes watering with the tears that he was sure would come.

                “C’mon man, a nice golden piece of cheese always cheers up my friends,” said the mouse.

                “I told you. I can’t eat cheese. It makes me sick,” said the man.

                “What!?! Cheese makes you sick!?! That’s…just unheard of,” said the mouse.

                “Well, it’s true so just deal with it,” said the man.

                The mouse scratched at his whiskers and sniffed the air around the man. He scurried around the man’s feet, back and forth, testing the air and rubbing his whiskers with his paws.

                “You don’t smell sick,” said the mouse.

                “Well, it’s not a sickness you can smell,” said the man.

                “Us mice are really good at smelling things so, I’m pretty sure you’re fine,” said the mouse, “Plus my brother is a doctor, so I think I know what I’m talking about.”

                The man lifted his head to look at the small brown mouse now sitting between his feet. The mouse was staring back at the man with a hint of a smile on his little face.

                “A mouse doctor you say,” asked the man.

                “Absolutely,” said the mouse.

                “Where did he get his degree,” asked the man.

                “Mouse-ouri State,” said the mouse.

                The man smiled. A slight chuckle. A bigger smile. A belly laugh. The man remembered that sometimes, the little things aren’t as so awful as they might seem.

                “See, you like cheese after all,” said the mouse.

                “I guess I do. I guess I do,” smiled the man. 

It's Pretty Deep

Some days there’s a struggle going

on the deepest parts of my brain

between acceptance and denial

of what I have become and

how I got there.

Most of the struggles involve

run-on sentences and essay-like

tomes of nonsense, all cramming

into a clown car of thought, all

trying to be the one to yell, “First” and toot a horn.

It’s self important, it’s self-pity,

it’s  another day spent in personally

decreed silence because I don’t want to

talk to anyone but desperately want to

with someone special.

I make myself sick with worry about

being alone, being rejected, unaccepted,

shunned, avoided, demonized, hated, feared,

being made a fool of, being a fool,

consumed with anxiety and stillness.

Distracted by it, constantly taunted by

couples, canoodling, kissing, sharing, loving,

laughing, fighting, swearing, looking at each

other in that way that says they know everything

about each other and the comfort they take in it.

I’m ill with the obsessions over my seemingly

self imposed loneliness, because of anxiety,

depression and mediocre self confidence, I think

it’s all my fault, I’m some hideous monster of a guy

undeserving of any love from a gal.  It’s not true. It’s not true?

The burns suffered are deep, through the meat,

into the bone, charred, and I’m not sure when it’ll

heal, if it will heal, can it heal, who would want me if

it didn’t heal, how does it heal, why hasn’t it healed yet,

what’s taking so long, what’s taking so long, what’s taking so long…

The struggle goes on and on, over and over,

in sweeping cycles, like seasons, a season where

one’s fancy turns to spring, romance, love, and

something new, something special and deserving

of adoration and to be cherished.  Then dashed by winter.

Anxiety, depression, has an effect,

It’s like crushing a beautiful flower in the

palm of your hand. Something so lovely and tender,

yet you can’t stop, can’t control,  your hand from smashing it,

and smearing it on the walls.

You wonder if you deserved such a beautiful thing

and then you worry that you’ll never have such a beautiful thing

again, so you do silly or stupid things to try and find it again, but you can’t

find it, so you stop looking and hope the beauty will find

you, but that isn’t working, taking too long, too isolating, too terrifying…

And then, will you just smash it again, in your hand

as you are lost in the beauty of it? Is that what will happen,

is that the pattern? Is there any escape from the loop de loop

of the clown car of thought.  

How does it work? What does it take?

I’m not sure what it takes in this world, to

be deserving of love, to be loved, to have

someone there, waiting just to hear about how

your day was and you can’t wait to hear about

their day.  To look in your eyes and see the best of themselves.

It seems so simple and yet so impossible.

Like running under a starry sky, it seems like

it would be easy to grab the stars in your hands

and scoop them from the air,

but it’s impossible.

The uncertainty of the impossible, or

possible, has been wearing me down,

the edges are rougher with the shaving,

the patience is thinner, the time is

shorter. But it’s deep down there. 

All Dancing Shadows

Dancing in a beach side cave,

back-lit by the bonfire,

casting shadows on the wall,

as the surf rolls in on the wave.

She shimmies, he shakes,

they embrace, they spin, they dip,

they sweat and jump like wild

natives as the ocean breaks.

The beat mixed with crackling flames,

the roaring foam, and their heels

pounding the sandy ground,

intensity without names.

They flicker in fire, projecting lust

onto the carved rock,

heavy breathing,

a conflagration of stardust.

The outside world faded away

in firelight, lost to a beach,

deepening night and thoughts

of soft kisses that seem to stay.

The shadows, existing only for them,

in lives of deceptive reflection,

warped and curved by the cave’s

rough surface, empty of mayhem.

Their bodies stretched up high,

lengthened in the licking light,

reaching for each other,

and the fire in their eye.

Dancing in a beach side cave,

back-lit by the bonfire,

casting shadows on the wall,

as the surf rolls in on the wave.

Where's Veronica?

This morning I thought

about a girl I once

knew in high school and I wondered

whatever became of her,

where did she go?

why did she randomly pop into my mind?

I remember thinking that she was

a tormented soul, trapped in cursed

adolescence with boundless creativity and

nothing but trouble ahead of her.

Did she wind up knocked up, knocked out, or

knocked around?

We were friends you see. Friends at a time

when friendship was the most precious

commodity.  We traded up or down as we

got older, our investments in people changed

as did our sweat equity with others.

Where did those emotional finances go?

She was dark. She was troubled.

She was evolving at what seemed to be

a faster rate than I was. It was something

absolutely remarkable and interesting.

Yet, in the end, after all these years,

I’ve no idea where she wound up.

A teenage boy and a teenage girl,

suffering the malice of puberty in rapidly

changing times. A time of strange potential

and curious discovery, building an intimacy

through mystery.  But never connecting

beyond the demur friendship etiquette demanded.   

I thought about this vanished girl. This woman,

who traveled with me in early teenage misery,

and I wondered where on this huge blue ball she

might be. Do I ever come up in her mental history

or in the checkbook of her past as that one guy

who was there, for a short time, and made a withdrawal? 

A Minute with Mom

I’m not going to say my mother is perfect.

That would simply be too bold.

And frankly, just an embarrassment because

of her unending and immaculate humility.

So I won’t say she’s perfect.

I won’t say she’s super awesome and

totally boss, because she’s really just

trying to do what she can, but, better

than most.  I mean a lot better. Face it,

she has a poet for a son, so there’s that.

I can’t say that she’s the smartest lady,

because I wouldn’t want to insult her

intelligence. I mean, she clearly knows

more than I do almost all the time,

almost.

I’m reluctant to say she’s the most funny

lady that ever graced the rest of us with

her ceaseless wit and comedic charm,

because again, I don’t want her to feel like

this is a joke or not to be taken seriously.

I don’t want to imply that Mom gives

the best hugs since the creation of arms,

but, I mean, c’mon, Mom hugs, right?

There’s nothing like them no matter

what age you are.

I am not sure Mom would want me to

brag so much about her, seeing as how she’s

really so good at it herself. My mom is the

best as self promotion and I wouldn’t deign  

to take that away from her.

So, for Mom’s sake, I’ll resist the temptation

to tell the whole world how wonderful, compassionate,

understanding, generous, wise, funny, loving, and

modest she is. I mean, no one is better at modesty

than she. Thanks Mom! Happy Mother’s Day!