Fire Dancers

When I was a child I once

saw fire dancers,

twirling and spinning flaming torches

around their heads and bodies,

the flames spun around the

dancers, but they never got

burned.

I thought, “I wish I could try

that, that looks amazing”,

but I was discouraged from doing

so. My mother told me those

fire dancers, they practiced for

a lifetime to master their skill.

She told me it would be dumb

to assume that I, as a child, knew

anything about fire dancing, or fire

for that matter. I didn’t have the

experience, know-how or insight

into the life of a fire dancer.

“I’ll show her”, I thought. I’ll light

this torch on fire and dance with

the greatest of ease, it has to be easy,

they made it look so graceful and

simple. I’m sure I know as much as

they do.

Several minor burns later I knew

my mother was right. I had no

business meddling within the

realms of fire dancers. I did not

have the knowledge, know-how,

or skills to ever understand the

fire dancer’s life.

I was just a child playing with fire,

a child too ignorant and proud to

admit that I was attempting a skill,

a life-style choice that I knew absolutely

nothing about. I learned that I would

have to know more about fire dancers.

I learned that just because I

know about fire-dancers doesn’t

give me the skills to become one.

It doesn’t even give me a platform

to discuss their trials and tribulations.

Lifetimes of burns and scars.

I still know next to nothing about

fire dancers, as a grown man, and

it would be foolish to pretend that

I knew what was best for the fire

dancing community.

Let the fire dancers dance,

let them twirl and spin,

wildly in the night,

without the non-fire dancers

telling them how to do it.

Eventually, they’ll burn you.

And you probably asked for it.

Bullied Thoughts

The stanza below is the only

portion of a poem I was working

on that I have kept.

“I am the grown-up version

of a bullied child.

I felt the barbs and brutality

of childhood and at times,

I still feel the sting, even

this far removed from

childhood. It is a sore spot,

a white-hot scar on adulthood.”

The rest of the poem, I hated.

It wasn’t right. It wasn’t saying

what needed to be said. I couldn’t

find the right sort of words to

really explain what that stanza meant.

Three long, overwrought, incarnations of the poem

went across this page and all of them

failed to clearly imbue the reader with

the right sense of the trap of being

bullied as a child can be.

I’m still not sure about it.

I still don’t think I can get it right.

All I know is that at times,

the inner bullied child still

whispers in my ear as I face

the challenges of being a grown up.

It whispers, “You can make it.”  

But I’m not sure.

I’m not sure which of us is braver.

The one that survived, or the one

still persevering.

Maybe I’ll keep this one.

Maybe it’s just right for him.

Annoyingly Necessary

The most extremely complicated

simplest thing ever cooked up in

the human mind must be love.

It’s entirely irrational and annoyingly

necessary.

I have been looking for that sort of

relationship love for what seems like

an inordinate amount of time now and

it is really starting to get to me in ways

I didn’t know it could.

I get jealous of couples, even unhappy

couples, who seem to have found each

other through the barriers and obstacles

life gleefully dumps into our paths, it’s

maddening to be on the outside of that.

I have been writing about romantic love,

partnership love, love-love and all other

kinds of love for an excruciating long

time and it amazes me that I still haven’t

met someone who inspires my heart.

I’ve been told my expectations are too high,

that I’m a romantic and real life is just about

getting along, settling and just doing what you

got to do to live. Happiness is an illusion sold

by Hollywood and life really is boredom mixed with pain.   

Life is indeed boring without getting

outside oneself and into the mind of another

person, someone who so completely cares about

you, almost as much as they do about themselves,

and you, reflect that admiration unequivocally.

Who does that? Is that really a thing?

Am I fooling myself with my fantasies of love,

of children, of a life broader than where it’s been,

is that sort of uncompromising and genuine love

real? Is it just a myth?

Maybe I just don’t know what it is

that I’m supposed to be trying to find.

Perhaps I’m putting too much

pressure on myself to find that

right sort of person who compliments me

as much as I compliment them,

perhaps I’ll just keep writing this

long sentence until she does come

along and taps me on the shoulder,

asks me if I’m okay and looks at me

with gentle open eyes and I stammer,

probably say something completely stupid

and out of context and maybe she’ll

laugh and the next thing you know she’ll

be reading this poem and kindly laughing at

me for being so foolish, she’ll lean over and kiss

my cheek and go back to being someone

amazing.

Yeah, it is complicated and amazing

and I want it. In the most annoying way.

A Little Self Promotion for May

Hello dear readers,

 I thought I would do a little shameless self promotion of my most recent book of poetry, Saying Too Much. It is the follow up to my first book, Never Said Enough.

Please see the attached link for more information. Thank you for all the years of readership.

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Loving the Tattooed Lady

An orchard of pain

was tattooed along the curves

of her body.

The colors and waves of light,

tendrils of ink telling her

story.

I ran my fingers along the

outlines of her pains and the

tale of each skin painted picture.

She bit on the edge of her

thumbnail, lost in some memory,

looking outward, into the past.

I was delicate in my touch,

as she recalled each tattooed

broken heart borne on her sleeve.

Stories written in blood,

over flesh, scars and time,

now elegant and masterpieces of coping.

Velvety red roses dappled in sunlight and

dew, masterfully drawn to tell the

story of the loss of her mother.

Orange and yellow flames flickering in the shadow

of the curve of her spine, to

illustrate a near fatal car accident.

Thick green thorny vines wound around her

hip and across her belly, her connection

to her lost child.

Bright azure birds in flight on her

shoulder blades over a blackened sky

to mark her rise over an ever-present sadness.

Each flourish of ink; pinks, blues,

purples and yellows, flashing vibrantly,

a swirling testimonial of survival.  

I became aware of my silence,

awash with teary-eyed tenderness for the

tough, tattooed woman.

She lit a cigarette and exhaled,

blue white smoke filling the space above her head,

a halo drifting in the waning daylight.

She spoke softly, white blanket pulled

modestly over her legs, plainly speaking

as I plainly listened.

A carefully crafted orchard of pain,

etched lovingly across her skin,

bravely hiding everything, and nothing.

I Don't Know

The most wonderful thing

I have learned is that I don’t

really know anything.

It’s quite odd, this wonderful thing.

I’ve preconceptions,

notions, ideas, concepts,

abstract thoughts,

but know nothing.

I thought I knew a lot.

I thought I had some of

this whole living thing

worked out; alas, I don’t.

I understand a great deal,

which has led me to this

discovery of my illusion of

knowledge.

It’s both terrifying and

grand. It’s scary to learn

that everything I thought

I knew was mostly inaccurate.

It’s grand because it gives me

a chance to re-think, re-start,

re-organize and reevaluate

my relationships.

It’s also irritating as I’ve been

sort of stuck in the same thing

for a long time and getting un-stuck

is a serious hassle.  Serious. Hassle.

In this discovery of knowing nothing,

I’m conflicted with the old ways of seeing

things, the new way of seeing things and

deciding which way is right for me.  

A minefield of historical errors of

prologue to review, to suffer renewed

embarrassments over, light shame, and

nostalgic bashful chuckles to ruminate on.

It is in knowing that we know nothing,

that we can begin to find wisdom, and wisdom

is the art of accepting that knowledge is

transitory.

Still though, it is odd,

considering how much I thought,

I knew, about everything, only to

find out, I don’t even know.

The Complainies

I’m being poked by an

irritant of some kind.

It’s persistent and

gnawing. It’s making me

irritable and annoyed.

It’s the Complainies!

Ah, yes. The Complainies.

I get the Complainies every so

often. Usually when I feel like

nothing is going my way.

Even when things are going

my way, I can still sometimes

get the Complainies. Actually,

the Complainies can be rather

unpredictable.

They can sneak up on me,

“Jeeze, look at that idiot drive,” I say.

Or, “I’m so tired of online dating.”

“Why is this taking so long,” or,

“Everyone here is dumb but me.”

I don’t really mean any of it.

(Except the online dating thing;

that’s just batshit nonsense and I

hate everything about it.)

I’ve just got the Complainies.

The Complainies make me hate

things, hate you, hate me, hate them,

hate those that tell me not to hate,

hate the haters, and generally hate the

whole damn stupid world’s face.

But I don’t. I don’t really hate it.

I recognize that the world isn’t

a perfect place and it’s unreasonable

to expect it to be so. I know that it’ll

all be okay with a little perseverance.

In the meantime though,

I’ll complain, moan, be disgruntled,

annoyed and be generally sarcastic,

until I’ve gotten all the

Complainies out of my system.

Please bear with this slight bout

of the Complainies, it’ll pass

soon enough and I’ll be back to

my slightly miserable and mildly

optimistic lovable self.